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13 Lessons Men Learn to Late About Women
Most men are idiots when it comes to dealing with women
1) Women Are Emotional Not Logical Creatures
When dealing with women keep the pretense that she is going to cause trouble. For this reason women have evolved to have higher emotional function than men—because of this trait—most of the times women are unable to control their emotions and they bring storm like tantrums to the table.
The duty of man in this essence is to penetrate the storm and pursue calm and love.
I'm saying when she is going apeshit don't go apeshit too. Learn to penetrate with love and compassion. If she still dismisses you—then stop. She's not the one.
High quality women understand when to stop.
This is also the reason why it's a universal experience for teenagers experiencing their Mother suddenly getting irritated and angry for no reason (We've all been there).

This is what your Mother feels when you try to reason with her
2) Lust Is A Filter
So many divorce could've been prevented if only the man wasn't dumb enough to follow whatever his dick was feeling.
Just because she's beautiful doesn't mean she's the one.
Just because she's hot doesn't mean she's wife quality.
Go read: 10 Brutal Truths Men Learn Too Late in Life. There's a specific lesson which I talked about how great men fall because of lust.
3) Never Worship A Woman
Men are brainwashed by TV, Sitcoms and movies. We are told to love and give women all they want.
But in this process they will lose attraction. They will see you as someone below (someone not worthy of their love).
You must strike a balance where she is loved but not too much as she will leave you if you are seen too clingy and possessive.
Women f*ck the guy who treats them like an option because deep down that's how they really want to be treated.
4) Have A Lot Of Options
The easiest way to attract a woman is to let her know she's only an option.
Women seek men who are pre-chosen by other women. For this reason you must also be perceptive enough if you are looking for a wife.
Many women are not worthy. We are living in the 21st century where hookups and f*ck buddy culture exists. Aim for a woman who is pure.
Never say: "You're the only one I love" or "I will never be able to live without you" because that's a losers behavior.
Women will say they want a pure man who's kind hearted and gives her all gifts while she goes for the alpha who treats her like trash.
Don't believe what women say. They are great at self-deception.
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5) Never Trade Your Goals For A Woman
Be sure to remind yourself that if a woman ever likes you—it's because of your current self.
If you ever become complacent; let's say lose muscle and and your abs because you've been slacking off in the gym and not sticking to a strict diet anymore—understand that she will leave you.
Women love men at their highest form.
Men can love a woman at her lowest but women cannot do the same for men.
They only want the best and highest version of yourself.
For this reason—if you are a low quality person right now but there's a woman who believes in your goals more than you do and she is clearly being supportive—understand such situation for women are rare.
It's not the norm. it could also be someone who's fertility is at lowest (almost expired) and looking for a beta guy to milk money and settle with.
Most women leave immediately when they understand a man is a loser.
Most women are gold diggers and leeches. Learn to differentiate.
Find the girl who supports you even though you are at your lowest. If you ever lose everything you've gained and she's still helping you—know she is irreplaceable.
6) Sweet Mouth, Ruthless Action
Women in particular know how to sound sweet and convincing. And in this process you must understand that women do not keep their word.
They change their mind at the last minute and don't follow what they said they were going to do.
So when a woman says "I love you" understand that it is either 1) True or 2) She wants something out of you (gold digger or single mother looking for a cow to cash milk).
Understand if you want to confirm what a woman is saying is true—look at their behavior and pattern. A woman telling you she loves you but is talking and face timing other men is a lying woman (which almost 80% of women does).
Men understand; just because you are being flooded by oxytocin (the happy hormone) in the presence of a woman doesn't mean you should believe everything what your mind says.
7) The Less Experience You Have The More Delusional You Are
Men who've never been into relationship are the most delusional when it comes to women.
A woman will never be the perfect princess. Most aren't that pure.
Never expect unrealistic scenario in your mind and say "no she's different" or "nah she doesn't do that man" said by people who've not realized their girlfriend are being fucked by their other friends (very common crab behavior).
A man needs to understand the difference between what's real and delusion.
Finding wife quality woman is hard. Don't make it harder by believing every woman you find is wife quality.
Truth isn't sweet but bitter.
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8) Avoid Women Who Weaponize Their Beauty
A common pattern with beautiful women who've been used before (low quality despite being hot) is they use their beauty as a weapon.
A massive red flag.
She will always crave attention and your attention alone will never be enough.
She will cheat, create drama and drag other men into your relationship.
A walking headache if you say.
A woman who is pure will never see her self as beautiful and will be full of insecurity.
Lest its your job to make sure she sees her self as beautiful if you've deemed her worthy but don't be stupid to believe that every girl you meet is worthy.
In other words—avoid women who like attention. They are walking problems.
We'll talk more about that in the future letters. This is a newsletter for men after all.
9) Finding Out If a Girl Likes You is Simple
Look at their body language, tone and behavior.
If it's consistent and reciprocates—you'll know if someone likes you.
The most common sign if a girl likes you is being open when they talk to you. They reciprocate and you can see they are happy being able to interact with you.
Open body language
Tone of pitch getting higher
Subtle smile and blushes
etc.
Another one is when you lock eyes and she looks away while smiling.
Acting out of character when you are around is also a good indicator.
Although men fall in love very easily.
Like when a woman is nice to them believing she likes him.
In other cases—women who are more outgoing and open will literally drag themselves to you and create situations that you two will interact.
The woman who is worth it will never be the one to make the first move. It's your job as the man to initiate contact.
As a matter of fact—women who approach you should be avoided. Because when a woman is comfortable with men—that means she's been with a lot of other men.
Remember its your job to approach not the girl's.
You're a man. It's natural to like women.
10) Women Are Natural Liars
When in doubt (actually always doubt) when women have a strong opinion or say they are going to do something—expect that they will either not follow through or make excuses when it falls apart (they will never admit this).
Women tend to blabber and blabber non-stop. For the sake of your mental peace do not believe everything what they say and look at what they do.
It's a much better way to predict what will happen instead of them saying they love you but is getting pounded by another man.
Although in professional settings—know that you should be diplomatic not romantic.
11) Romance Isn't The Same as You See In The Movies
There's nothing more BS than women saying they want a man who is kind, purehearted and give them a lot of gifts while they let the alpha f*ck them and treat the nice guy like he's disposable.
Women are practical when it comes to love. They choose the most muscular, tallest, hottest and most charismatic.
While men downgrade and choose a women lower than his quality.
If a woman is 8 out of 10—she will never choose a man below 7. While if a man is 8 out of 10—he may willingly choose someone even down to 5.
So many men are delusional when it comes to women. I blame influence from movies and sitcoms.
12) Never Fix a Woman
Women who appear helpless and seem to be needing someone's help while being loud about it do not want help but either attention or sympathy so they can suck out of someone's wallet or energy while they live comfortably.
It's stupid to help a woman just because you think she's cute and beautiful. Follow your brain not your penis.
Sounds simple but 9 out of 10 men will fail to follow.
There are women who are worth helping but if she's not your family or a close friend—it's safe to assume her family and close friends will be the one to help not you (be the hero only if needed not when wanted).
13) What Women Mean When They Say Someone is Hot
Looks alone isn't enough to attract a woman. Sure she may get interested if you have a face of 9 out of 10 but if you are creepy and socially awkward that attraction will quickly disappear.
When women say someone is hot—they usually mean, He is: Charismatic, confident and have a good physique (aka mysterious).
I'm sure you all are aware that I rarely talk about dating in "The Improvement Letter'' however after seeing how so many of you suck at understanding women.
I'm going to also write about the dynamics of love and relationship in the future letters.
This is a newsletter for men.
That's all for this week.
It's shorter but packed.
See you.
If you're read this far, go re-read some lessons here and connect the dots with your experiences. Your mind will lie but your higher self will know it's true.
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