1) Jealousy

No matter who you are in the world—even if you think you're ugly or you have nothing to brag about there are always people that will be jealous of you.

It could be the way you talk, the way you walk, the way you respond or the people you are friends with.

Jealousy can come from 2 things:

• Ego- Is also known as arrogance. Egotistical people do not like seeing other people better than them. Especially if someone tells them you are better than them. Even if you have pure intentions—there are people who will not second think to make your life worse. Arrogance is not being able to accept that there are people better than you. This type of people are usually those who have been neglected and long for praise. They aren't evil in nature but would love acknowledgement which they seek in the wrong way.

• Narcissism- Is similar to attention seeking. Wants to always be pampered with praise and acknowledge. And if he/she see's that you are better than them and you are stealing the spotlight they will hate you for no reason. In other words they do not hate you but the feeling that they feel inferior from you is what they hate. They dislike feeling as if they're below and you're above. People who have this trait should be avoided. Nothing good comes from them.

2) Weak Body Language

We are visual creatures. We judge instinctively base on appearance and mannerism.

This might seem like I’m insulting people who walk like this but no. What I’m doing is being honest.

The way you walk correlates to your self-esteem. The slouchier and weaker your back—the less confidence and trust you have with yourself.

If you notice with athletes—those who are well known. They walk like they own the room. They stand like a tower. Strong and stable.

Back straight, chest out and eyes glued.

And when we see someone who crouches, scrolls in their phone all day long—we think they are weak or a loser.

Most people don't think or rather they don't think critically all the time. This leads to false judgements and wrong impressions.

And first impression always counts. If you act like you're a bitch or someone who is weak—people will always remember that image of you and will treat you like a bitch or a loser.

That's the way it works. The way you talk the way you act determines if you can get someone's respect.

People instinctively make an image about you in their minds and remember it till the day they die.

Common examples of weak body language:

Slouching-

What it looks like: Your shoulders are hunched, your head is down, and your back is curved.

The way you stand or sit signals confidence. Naturally those who stand tall and upright are seen as confident.

Slouching makes you look like you're tired, sad, or like you don’t want to talk which repels other people. When someone sees you slouching, they might think you're not confident or a loser.

Avoiding Eye Contact-

What it looks like: You keep looking at the floor, your shoes, or the wall instead of looking at someone’s face and you feel nervous looking at their eyes and constantly avert your gaze

Eye contact shows you're paying attention and not afraid. If you avoid it, people might think you're hiding something, feeling shy, or uncomfortable. Looking someone in the eyes (not staring) shows respect and confidence.

Which people exploit all the time. If they see that they can push you around they will.

Fidgeting-

What it looks like: You keep playing with your hands, tapping your feet, biting your nails, or moving around a lot. This look cute on girls but looks disgusting on men.

Fidgeting makes you look nervous or unsure, like you’re too anxious to sit still. If you're always moving, it’s hard for people to focus on what you're saying. Calm people usually move less and seem more in control.

This can also make people think you're weird or unusual.

Weak Handshake-

What it looks like: Your handshake feels soft, like a dead fish, or too quick and unsure.

A weak handshake shows that you're not confident or fully present. It gives a bad first impression, especially to adults or in professional situations. A firm (but not painful) handshake shows you're confident and respectful. It also signals dominance.

There are a lot more I can talk about but let's move on the next topic.

3) People Pleasing

People pleasing attitude is saying yes requests even though you know you don't have to do it.

You also don't have the obligation to help everyone. Most people who say they are kind are just usually nice. They don't want to irritate or anger someone by refusing a request.

But by saying yes you actually give yourselves problems.

Not only that you waste time your own time also put your self on a lower standard.

People will then walk all over you and make unreasonable requests and when you say no they'll get pissed off and get angry to you because they were so used to you saying yes and now that you've changed they're pissed that they lost a unofficial servant that was useful to them.

4) Attention Seeking

Attention is like a drug—the more you get it—the more you want it.

People who cannot control their impulses on getting validation or getting attention are usually disliked. Simply because they are oblivious to reading the situation.

They suck at seeing if people they talk actually like or hate them. They suck at reading the atmosphere.

When someone always tries to be the center of attention — always loud, dramatic, or showing off — it can come off as fake. People usually like others who seem real, calm, and natural. Constant attention-seeking can feel like a performance, not a real connection.

Trying too hard to be noticed can make you seem insecure. And make you look like you’re begging for approval. That can be uncomfortable to watch and make people pull away.

For example:

Someone tells a story about getting a good grade. Then another person jumps in and says,

"That’s nothing. I got 100% and the teacher said I’m the smartest in class!."

It shows they care more about attention than the conversation. They want to stand out and it gets annoying pretty fast.

Which is draining. And this type of people often get the cold shoulder and eyes.

That's all for today.

This should be enough to make you see why some people get respect and others don’t.

See you on the next one,

-Noat

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