The following contents is about traits I've seen time and time again between people who win and people who don't at life.

Let's start with people who don't.

Sub-Human Attitude: Why most people live like an NPC.

I want you to understand most people don't have goals of their own. They follow the path laid out by their parents.

Follow whatever job is in demand and retire miserably never having even made 10% progress on their real dreams. This sounds cynical and it is.

Many people including your friends and family are living this life. It's painful to admit but once you see the difference between the high performers and those who just exist—there's a very big mindset gap between the two. That's why few get rich while the rest stay poor.

Most people are living on autopilot

People are conformist. Because they are afraid of judgement and criticism. So instead of taking risks to get what they want and potentially getting success to achieve their dreams—they will follow what other people are doing out of trend and fear because being different is seen as weird or odd in society.

Think of the nerds who you used to think was a loser in high school that now earns 5-10x you make. Think of the guys who didn't follow what you and your peers were doing and were labeled as weird.

Think of the guys who didn't drink in college and were called g*y because he wasn't man enough to destroy his liver with toxic water.

People follow what other people are doing because they don't know what to do.

And they think other people know what they're doing—while in reality both don't know what they're doing.

Just look at your friends. Many of them will say they pursued X career because their friends or family told them to do it. Or they followed a trending job.

Most people don't have goals of their own and it makes them an NPC.

Every one thinks its good to be average because most people are average. In TIL (The Improvement Letter) we don't allow allow mediocrity.

If you're a regular reader—you know I don't sugarcoat and tell the truth. You gave me your email and in return I'm here to help you.

People who can't accept and sit with the truth stay average. Don't be one of them.

Accepting Mediocrity

The real reason people don't change is—fear of failure and criticism. They'd rather guarantee mediocrity than risk failure trying what they actually want.

Most of the friends I used to have only—wanted to finish college and work a stable job. And that's it. No meaningful goals or any interesting ones.

Then I see them by 5-10 years later and they look miserable. Cracks in their faces, pimples popping off, dead eyes and slouched body posture.

They:

• Followed trends

• Chase whatever job is "hot" right now

• Did what their friends were doing

• Convince themselves this is "playing it safe"

• They think other people know what they're doing. But those people are just copying someone else too. It's conformity all the way down.

You can tell they hate their life.

Sabotage: How lower members of society creates loops of failure

Those who lack the ambition and drive to achieve their dreams will attack the ones who are pursuing it.

And they are usually the ones who are bitter and toxic from the successes of other people.

They have a mentality commonly referred as "Crab Mentality"

"if I can't get it you can't also get it".

Very common especially if you have a low quality social circle. They will bully you when you go to the gym and call you gay for working out.

Mentally healthy people don't attack others who try to make a difference in their life.

Looking back—most of the people I knew in high school made fun of people who go to the gym and used to call them all sorts of derogatory names.

They even picked on this guy who was muscular and in nice shape. The only problem was this guy didn't know how to stand his ground. He was manly in terms of body but didn't know how to project respect.

The guy they made fun—had abs. While most of them were either skinny fat or straight up looking like a twig.

Deep down remembering the guys who were making fun of this guy—they were just insecure about themselves and wish they had a nice physique like him.

I even remember them saving this guys picture and sending it to their group chats making fun of him.

What I want to tell you is simple: You will encounter many types of people like this.

It can be a random stranger who's straight up an asshole or a fake friend who makes lies behind your back.

These are the losers of the world. They have nothing better to do other than cause problems and conflict to others.

The more success you have the more you will face these types of people.

I've had friend who attacked me because I got better.

I've had social circles I've quit because most of them were losers who will take out their self-loathing on those who try to make their life better.

There's no merit to staying in a declining place. You as a man must continuously improve your life no matter the judgement and criticism. People will hate your progress because it damages their self-image.

You who was once a loser is now a winner and they can't accept it. Remember crab mentality. Those can even be your family depending on how situation is.

Breaking Free: What makes winners different

You'll have to leave people behind .Friends. Maybe family. Social circles that no longer serve you.

At first you will feel a lot of loneliness, judgment and being called "changed" or a "fake friend" because you're trying to improve yourself and ditching the hedonistic habits you once shared with them.

The only problem is most people won't do this but if you do:

• You get to become who you actually want to be

• You attract higher-quality people who are also growing

• You reclaim your focus and attention for things that matter

• You stop living someone else's life

Nobody ever got better without having the balls to change. Growth requires leaving your old self and your old circle behind.

I always preach leaving toxic friends because that's what holds most people back.

Bullying can do a lot of damage to your self-image and mindset. And most people experience this even if it's not physical bullying.

Most bullying happens verbally and words cut deeper than swords. Cutting people off only feels hard at first. The rest comes easily with time when you reclaim your peace and happiness.

The Cost and the Benefit

The cost of being a winner is loneliness. Many of your friends will not understand you. Your family will think you are wasting your life for not following the traditional path.

You will always be met with opposition when you don't conform to people's standards even if they themselves are in no place to judge you.

When you quit social media—no one will reach out to you. When you go to the gym many of your friends will not join. When you meditate you will get weird looks from your family.

When you start practicing good habits and make progress—you will see how unhealthy most people are.

When you become disciplined you'll get irritated when people bother and distract you.

They won't understand why you're holed up in your room working. They won't understand why you are waking up early in the morning. They won't understand your goals.

They'll even get at your nerves most of the times for not understanding your vision.

Life as a winner means being different. You will stop relating to how other people are living their life and see that they are wasting it—then deep down you know this could've been you if you didn't start self-improvement.

What I want to tell you is simple—you will only get support once you win. As long as you are still not in the place you want to be—people will get in your way, claw your progress away and create problems to stop you.

No one claps when you're on your journey. Very few will support you when you decide to take a different path.

People will only cheer once you make it. Your family and close friends are not exempted.

In the end of those struggles—ultimately you will be rewarded.

You will experience the following:

• Your family loves you.

• Your stress levels are at an all time low.

• You smile most of the time for no reason.

• You become happy when you work because it feels like play to you.

I love my current life thanks to the sacrifices I've made.

If time resets—I'll do it again.

I'll ditch toxic friends. Cut off anyone who only makes my life worse. Take all the pressure and doubt whether I could make it or not.

And that's all thanks to the sacrifices I've made.

The difference between those who win and don't is commitment and self-belief.

The ability to stay do the same thing for a long period of time and believing you can actually make it happen.

These are the winners at life. They vary in terms of success. Some win big, some win just above average and some win and quit the matrix.

That will be all for this week.

See you next time

-Noat

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