People who say they should enjoy their 20’s become losers as they hit their 30’s.

Their faces will crack, have deep dark eye bugs and genuinely will have lost 50% hope about life.

You have to choose between “enjoy now and suffer later” or “suffer now and enjoy later”. Men have no other option. We need to suffer now for a few years or we end up suffering for the rest of our lives.

We are not born with value. We have to create it.

Wasting your 20’s is a fool’s errand. Because results come from the foundation. Your 20’s are meant for building and growth not to get wasted.

You are not supposed to go always traveling, getting drunk every weekend fucking girls.

You are supposed to be building your mind, body and soul. You are supposed to be earning your mission in life.

Those who waste their 20’s become miserable.

They will be the ones who lick their bosses shoes just to keep their jobs. They will be the ones to hate their wife because they chose her out of lust not out of love.

The modern world for men is cruel. One allegation about r*pe and your life is destroyed. One mistake about knocking up a girl from a hookup will make you slave.

Men nowadays think they should enjoy their 20’s. I say that you should be spending 80% of your time learning and building then spending 20% of it enjoying life the natural way.

No parties or degenerate activities. But real enjoyment like trekking, hiking and joining sports clubs.

My relatives who didn’t put in the work suffer from their life. Dead ambitions that always linger in their mind. And when they remember who they could’ve been - it usually turns into anger and frustration that hurts people close to them.

Just like how a Mother nags his son to practice, that son will feel annoyed because he thinks it’s too late or he cannot do it. While in reality there is plenty of time.

I’ve personally felt ashamed when I don’t do my work. It’s kind of a energy that always linger in your mind and body. Like a constant reminder, letting you know - you could be more. And this kind of energy is positive at first. But as time goes on and you continue to ignore this feeling - it turns sour and salty.

This makes you a dejected person. You lose hope and life essence. Life becomes mechanical - a robotic existence without any excitement instead of having a blast like an adventure.

There’s always a clear divide between those who worked hard in their 20’s and those who just enjoyed it.

You can always see it in their faces, smile and demeanor.

Those who didn’t have this repulsive energy that makes you want to go away. And those who did have this kind of magnetic pull that you want to be a part of their life.

If you don’t want to waste your 20’s - listen carefully.

Here’s what you should be doing instead.

Use your money wisely

When you’re young you have a lot of time but not money. And that’s precisely what you should be prioritizing.

The line “nobody is coming to save you” is more likely to be translated as “nobody is going to make you rich”.

You don’t need to be rich but you need to be financially well off. And that starts earlier than you think.

Those who are successful in their 30’s used their 20’s to build up skills and connections. And they all avoided lifestyle inflation.

When you are in your 20’s - do your very best to save money and only buy what you need. You can treat yourself once in a while but do not spend money on trendy things.

Like buying the newest iPhone or expensive vacations. You should be using that money to put your future self first. Instead of spending it on trendy items - use that to invest into something first.

Now I know you’ll say “but I don’t even know if I’ll die tomorrow or not”. That’s true. Nobody can say when they’ll die.

But that doesn’t mean you will not live tomorrow.

So many people have this dejected mindset - when told something true - they always have an excuse to say.

A well bought laptop can last you 5 years. A well bought car can last you a decade.

A well bought online course can teach you skills that can help you increase your income.

A true friend can build a bond so deep you treat each other as brothers.

Spending your money lavishly without regard for the future will make your older self broke.

Traveling gets old fast, build connections instead

What most people miss about traveling is - it’s not about the places you travel to that makes it worth it- it’s the memories you build together with the people you care about that makes traveling a fantastic experience.

Traveling alone gets old fast. What you should be focusing on instead is building lifelong friends you can trust.

In life you’ll know 100 people but only 5-10 of those are the ones you will trust.

When you have an emergency most people in your contact list will be out of the question.

It’s those 10 people that will help you. Most of the times it’s even lower than that. Say 3-5 people only.

Don’t fall for peer pressure

When are young and still naive about life - you are going to look at what other people are doing and copy them.

If most of your friends are going to college you’ll also go to one. If most of your friends have a girlfriend you’ll also most likely get one.

Diluting your own individual goals for the sake of fitting in has never brought anyone to greatness. People who achieve things in life have always been the ones labeled weird or crazy.

Do not conform to society’s beliefs. Build your own opinions. Don’t be a sheep.

Listening to everyone’s advice

If someone is giving you advice, understand that they’re either boasting or unqualified.

A fat person giving weight loss advice is BS. A poor person giving investment advice on how to get rich is BS.

When someone gives you advice about something - don’t believe it immediately. Assess the credibility of their statement with their actions and achievements.

It’s easy to judge and boast. That’s why social media has become toxic. What’s hard is actually putting in the work and showing results for it.

If someone doesn’t have the life you want - don’t listen to their advice.

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Stop spending time with toxic people, cut them off

Hanging out once in a while is okay. But making it your lifestyle and going out to bars every Friday and Saturday night is not okay.

Not only are you creating fantastical illusions on your life - you are also putting poison in your body every week.

For the people you hang out with - you must be extremely selective. Doesn’t matter if you have to be with just 1 or 2 friends.

Your friends have a strong impact on your life. If your friends constantly bully and make you think like a loser - you will start to become a loser.

Because peer pressure is real and group think usually becomes the norm. Avoid toxic relationships.

Just because you know them for a while doesn’t mean you should stay together with them. Not only will they hold you back - they will also introduce you to addictions that will keep making your life miserable.

And that leads us to the next lesson

Avoid addictions at all costs

Hook ups, drugs, alcohol, porn will destroy your life faster than laziness. Nothing drains your soul and life than artificial means to satisfy your earthly desires.

Hook ups are addicting because your DNA is hard wired to reproduce the human populace.

Drugs give you this false sense of enlightenment that’s why people come back looking for it.

Alcohol gives fake relaxation that’s why it’s addicting.

Porn gives you artificial intimacy that’s why it sells.

If you are a young man, never indulge in alcohol and smoking. Not even once. Never take it. Just don’t. You’ll avoid a lot of health problems.

It looks cool on movies, drama’s and pictures and social media - however the future result on your health is horrible.

Embracing loneliness

The part most people never talk about in their 20’s is the loneliness it brings.

It’s where you just graduated from school and are now separated from your friends. You rarely see each other and even talking to them online is a hassle.

Many people do not realize the cruelty of adult hood. When you hit ages 20-25 -your parents are no longer obliged to help you out.

You are on your own. Sure they can support you, but it must be YOU who builds your OWN SUCCESS. It cannot be handed to you.

And another thing I’d like to point out is this.

Looking for unconditional love

As a man you should not be looking for a woman when you are young. What you should be doing is building. Women often get in the way.

There are rare cases where the woman is your pillar and she supports you in your journey like the case for Sahil Bloom.

However most women are not like that.

If you are single - you need to build your life first before committing to deep relationships.

And when you do make sure to understand she loves you because of who you are not because of your Money.

Many men make the mistake of marrying the first girl who likes them. Doing so they end up regretting it.

Men understand: the woman you should marry must not be your only choice. If you marry a girl because you have no one to choose other than her - you’ve already failed marriage.

Marrying someone because you have no other choices means you don’t really love her but just don’t want to be lonely when you grow old. That’s why most modern marriages are weak. People marry out of fear not out of love.

Aligning beliefs to popular mainstream media

The easiest way to destroy your life is to have no original thought and always follow what your parents and other people are believing about.

Tuning your beliefs for other people has never led to great results. Creating a disparity between you and other people is a must.

You must learn your own authentic self: your vision, dreams, personal opinions and beliefs about life. You must not get sucked into being a sheep.

Doesn’t matter if you’re called weird. People who are weird win at life because they take back their own personal and authentic power by being real to themselves while other people stay stuck lying over and over not realizing they’re digging their own grave mentally.

Wasting time

I don’t think I have to say much about this.

It’s fine to waste time once in a while, but just don’t do it everyday. You’re not a productivity robot that can work 24/7 so learn to enjoy life in the good way.

Travel to nature in a day or week. Go hiking or trekking, Join marathons. Waste time in a way that doesn’t feel like you wasted it.

Not valuing what really matters

Many people love their friends more than their family. Many grow old never saying reconciling with their loved ones.

In life - you have to make choices. If you want to be successful you got to put in a hours and hours every week and miss social events.

It’s always a choice. If you choose to be comfortable - you lose your ambition and goals in life.

If you choose to be great - you choose solitude and self-actualization.

Everything has pros and cons. And what you decide that really matters to you will and should come from yourself, never from others.

Nobody can teach you about your goals and dreams at life . Only guide you.

That’s what we do here.

Good luck

See you next time

-Noat

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