Your looks are predetermined before you are born. How attractive you are is not.

Your excuses about height, genetics doesn’t matter. Those are cope. Men who allow themselves to be small don’t deserve growth.

If you are here to make excuses “but I am x,y,z” , “but what if I was born like this” stop reading and go back to making excuses.

Most men are ugly not because they are born like a troll, but because they don’t know how to take care of themselves.

They don’t know how grooming, increasing physique, body language works.

They have no knowledge about how to increase one’s attractiveness and don’t realize it’s possible to become more attractive.

You can start at the bottom and still come out on top. All excuses are cope. I was fugly and I became fit, made my body lean and lowered my body fat. You can cope all you want. It’s all excuses at the end.

You might think the more attractive you are the more people will accept you. Yes they will but that’s not the goal.

The single greatest benefit of increasing your attractiveness is self-respect and self-love.

A man who hates to look better hates himself. A woman who refuses to take action and improve her looks hates herself.

No man or woman who respect and loves himself/herself hates looking better. It’s only those who have self-hatred that dn’t put any effort into improving their looks.

The better you look the better your life becomes. It’s a fact.

The way you present yourself aka posture is important

Source: https://physiocure.in/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/posture.jpg

You can instantly go from 10 to 5 just from having a bad posture. People aren’t that smart.

Humans are judgemental. Weak body language signals you as unimportant and someone to be push around. Look around you, when you see a slouched person always looking down on their phone, you immediately think they are a push over. It’s a natural tendency to have.

Seriously, your posture dictates your status to everyone around you 24/7. People make snap judgments about your competence and attractiveness within 100 milliseconds of seeing you. Most of that comes from posture.

Rounded shoulders, forward head, collapsed chest. That’s what 90% of people look like. Hunching over screens, looking at the floor when talking to someone, avoiding eye contact makes you look insecure, low energy, and a loser. Weak body language signals “I’m not worth your time.”

The fix is annoying but simeple; Pull your shoulders back, keep your chin level, and maintain a neutral spine. It feels weird at first, almost like you’re puffing your chest out. But it works. You just have to get used at it

Master the art of strategic attention

People find you more attractive when you’re slightly less available than they expect. Not playing games, but genuinely having a full life that they’re being invited into.

Anyone who is always available, always shares what’s going on with their lives lack mystery and thus are seen as common.

What you need is actually have a life and have things you focus on. That means actually having things to do and being busy, like real busy.

So when someone gets your attention, sometimes, but not always, their brain releases more dopamine than if you’re constantly available.

Practically, this means don’t respond to texts instantly every time. Have hobbies and commitments that occasionally take priority. Show genuine interest when you’re together, but don’t be the person who drops everything constantly.

When you are always available and give people your attention freely, you become a commodity, someone common and average.

But if you choose your time and who you give your attention carefully, people respect that and makes you look more attractive.

That also means, if someone is actively ignoring you, ignore them back. Don’t give your attention freely like you’re someone begging for it.

Never give your attention freely.

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Develop an unfair verbal advantage

Most people are TERRIBLE at conversation. They either interview the other person with boring questions or they monologue about themselves. Both are attractiveness killers.

But if you have a good vocabulary and is good at articulating yourself, you are seen as more interesting and someone worthy listening to.

When you share stories, be specific.

The keyword is specific. Don’t say, “I like hiking.” Say, “I got lost in the mountains last month and had this moment at sunset where I genuinely thought I might die out there, which was oddly peaceful.”

Specificity creates imagery, emotion, and connection.

It also makes people actively imagine what you are saying adding depth and creativity.

People connect better when they can imagine things.

I recommend you practice your social skills by recording yourself. Try telling a story. Without anyone around. Just you and the camera.

Smell better than everyone else (seriously)

Olfaction is directly wired to the limbic system, the emotional center of your brain. scent bypasses conscious processing and triggers immediate emotional responses.

Most guys either smell like a middle school locker room (too much Axe body spray) or like nothing (which is honestly worse than you think). Women are biologically more sensitive to scent than men, so this matters way more than most people realize.

The play here is layering. Good soap or body wash, then a subtle cologne. emphasis on SUBTLE. You want people to smell you when they’re close, not when they enter the room.

That also means take care of your hygiene properly. Don’t smell bad. Actually take care of how you smell.

Become genuinely interested in people

This sounds like basic advice, but most people fake this terribly. Humans are exceptional at detecting genuine interest versus performative interest.

The trick is curiosity. Not polite questioning, but actual fascination with how other people’s minds work. Everyone has an area where they are secretly obsessed with something.

• Find it.

• Ask follow-up questions.

• Let them teach you something.

This works because of mirror neurons and social reward systems. When you show genuine interest in someone, their brain lights ups. They associate you with feeling good about themselves, which is the foundation of attraction.

A lot of this stuff fails because people are working from a foundation of low self-worth.

You can fix your posture, smell amazing, and master conversation techniques. But if you fundamentally don’t believe you’re worth someone’s time, it shows in your body language and energy.

Most people connect over shallow things. So their relationships become shallow. They don’t really know each other and are just trying to be polite.

That doesn’t work. Humans are wired to see whether you really like them or not.

Anyone can fake interest but not curiosity.

The good news is that this is fixable. It’s not some inherent quality you’re born with. Self-worth is built through evidence, accomplishing small goals. Keeping promises to yourself. Gradually, you build self-worth over time.

Therapy helps if you have got deeper stuff going on with these frameworks.

Look, becoming genuinely attractive is possible for basically everyone. You don’t have to reincarnate or become someone else. You have to put in the work.. The science backs this up. The practical results back this up. I back this up.

Most people won’t do any of this because it requires sustained effort over months. But if you do, you’ll become completely different 95% of people out there.

Give it 6 months and you’ll become an entirely different person.

Anything else is an excuse.

There are more to this.

But that’s all I’ll share or else it gets overwhelming.

I haven’t touched specific traits like body building for a muscular physique, being lean, fashion style (what clothes to wear), hair styles etc..

Also if you think you can be attractive while being fat, just unsubscribe. Fat people are unattractive. You can’t cope your way out of this.

Being lean and muscular will make you look way better.

That’s all for this week.

See you next time.

-Noat

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