Most men never experience respect. They never know and understand what it’s like people not pushing their boundaries and having proper etiquette.

They don’t know what’s the difference between real respect and insults disguised as jokes.

Most of you will not like this letter simply because you think being respectful will get you respect.

No - most people are assholes. You can never respect an asshole and get respect back from them.

It doesn’t work. Low IQ people do not understand the concept of respect. They only look at potential violence to respect.

This letter about respect isn’t some wishy washy advice like speak slower, pause before speaking, stand up straight tall (although they work I want to tackle a different angle). This one is about dominion and status as a retrospect and how they affect a man’s life.

First let’s differentiate being liked to being respected.

Being liked is not the same as being respected. Although being respected will cause people to like you - being liked will not result to being respected.

The difference between the two is clear - if you are liked- people are willing to do you favors but not so much. People may still be willing to sabotage or hurt you in the long run.

On the other hand being respected is not that case. Respect and likeness are related but being respected comes from your abilities and reputation.

If people know you don’t fuck around if they fuck with you - they will respect you.

Respect comes from 3 things; competence, intimidation and authority.

• If you are good at your job - your boss will respect you solely because of the value you bring. That means he will treat you properly because once you leave his company- you could do damage to his revenue and business. Competence makes people treat you right - as you become irreplaceable- your value skyrockets.

• For intimidation - look at violence. Most people in this generation have never been in a fight before - so the mere idea of being punched in the face already terrifies a lot of people. Intimidation is correlational to violence. If other men know you can fight and literally fuck up their life somehow by breaking a bone or tendon - most men would be hesitant to fuck with you - since the trade off is not worth it. That’s why few people mess with tall and bulky men. They have more raw power/strength compared to average sized people.

• Authority comes from the role you attained in society. Most politicians are respected because they have authority. When you have authority, people will respect you as default. Because you have the power to enforce laws if ever they are to break it. It’s the same reason why you respect your boss. Because, at any moment - he can fire you.

If you want people to treat you right, you need to show competence and self-respect.

When people see that you don’t treat yourself right - you slowly become their doormat.

I’ve seen this play out multiple times. The guy who never stands his grounds ends up being played by other men.

Those who do not know how to protect their respect and reputation end up at the mercy of those who do not care about others.

Being willing to burn others is somehow a good strategy if you want people not to mess with you.

They mess with you=Potential trouble and potentially catastrophic life consequences; not worth it.

As I was publishing my letters I realized most of my readers are either college students or young adults working, So in order for this letter to make sense to most of you - I will give examples mainly in college and workplace venues.

If you want me to tackle respect in the big ideas let me know. I’ll write about that one as well.

What it takes to be worthy of respect

Men who look weak and appear weak are never respected.

Men are always given respect via their ability to harm and instill violence. That’s caveman DNA in everyone’s mind. But this is also the modern world. The rule to power with violence no longer applies.

It’s the one who holds the most power socially. Laws stopped people from ravaging each other.

But there are some things you need to keep in mind if you wish to be respected.

Not being a pushover

Learning to stand your ground and not being afraid while doing so is what causes people to respect you.

It doesn’t hurt to follow - but often you need to stand your ground. To pass shit tests and other toxic behavior other men will play on you.

Most adults are petty- they will do stupid things just to get an ego boost. That means belittling others, making fun of them and or straight up bullying. And the way to not being a push over is self-respect.

When you have no self-respect people, naturally push you around. Because your aura is weak. Your presence is weak. Most people do not care about you- so hurting you is fine.

That’s the unwritten law of the world. It’s a jungle. And the one who can navigate socially the best wins.

The world used to be a survival of the fittest. Now it’s the survival of the wittiest.

Use your brain before you get angry at someone. Use your wits before you want to exact revenge over a petty grudge.

If you truly want respect from other men - you need to show to them that you are not a push over. If you are weak and you stand up to them - 9 out of 10 times they might double down on bullying you. But you got to risk that 1 chance. If you never do - you get labeled as a push over who lets everyone walks all over you.

Being intimidating isn’t always about violence

If you want low IQ men to respect you instantly - get big. Because low IQ men only think of one thing worth respecting; violence.

If people think you can exact and do more violent things than they can do - they don’t try their luck with you. That’s why muscular men are not being pushed around. People don’t want to their test luck against it.

Get jacked. Get fit. Become muscular. It’s one of the best investments you can make as a man

Become socially competent-

I said that being big means other people don’t fuck around with you - but there’s also one thing I want to take note; it’s useless if you’re a push over.

Being big and having a strong body made in the gym is useless if you let other people pick and push you around.

And that brings us to the same lesson again- being respected is always about standing your ground.

Everything is a shit test to men, there are who will try to scare you, there are those who will try to hit you - but even then, stand your ground. The better you stand your ground - the better your chances of being left alone.

If it comes to it - never throw hands. You don’t want to get jailed. Just learn to stand your ground. Look them at the eyes and don’t appear afraid (even if you are).

It’s always the low IQ and stupid ones

The ones who try to mess with other people is always the stupid ones.

You never see the intelligent ones create problems. It’s always the stupid ones who think fighting and violence is the answer. It’s always the case - people who create trouble only think of fighting to solve problems.

So many adults never think twice of the consequences of testing other people.

That’s why you get so many cases of homicide and fights. Most people are stupid and they think fighting is the answer even though it will get their assed toss in prison.

Don’t be one of them.

Politics

This one deserves it’s own letter.

Being socially competent and being able to act like a politician to safeguard your reputation deserves it’s own letter. If you don’t understand - earning respect is more than just self-respect - it’s also appearing worthy of respect, having authority and status. And the best way of that is being a politician even if you are not.

No I’m not saying you should go run for a political position.

I’m telling you the world is full of politics.

Even are work - there are politics happening every single day.

The better you get at it - the better your chances of playing the game well.

To recap;

Being respected is about competence, status and authority. If you are good at something and you are irreplaceable - people will respect you because - the moment they lose you - they will have a lot of problems to solve. i.e. more pain and trouble now that you’re gone.

If you are a high status person (I don’t recommend playing status games) people will respect you because they think they can get something off of you. They will leech you off and try to take something from yours by appearing trustworthy.

Authority - the easiest example is you respecting your boss. You have to. If you don’t and piss him off - you get fired. You lose your income, you lose your mortgage, you lose your car, you become homeless. That’s why even if your boss is an asshole - you have to put up with it.

I have more to talk about respect. There’s aura (not the meme one), networking, credibility and reputation.

I haven’t talked about it all just yet.

So I’ll leave you with a couple of pointers on how to be respected in the most banal and grounded way

Building respect in small ways:

• Never over explain yourself. The more you justify your decisions, the weaker you sound. Say “I can’t make it Friday” instead of “I can’t make it Friday because my cousin’s dog has a vet appointment and...” which sounds bad. After you’ve made your point stop.

• Don’t give advice. If people are not asking for it - shut your mouth. You are not Plato or Aristotle. Most people can’t take advice. They see it as an insult and get offended.

• Breathe before speaking. It calms you down and makes you not blabber and controls your mouth. Makes you thoughtful as well.

• Never react impulsively. This one is hard because it requires a lot of self-control. If people are to test you - do nothing and just stay quiet. Leave if you can. Better. If you can’t - just if ignore them and appear like you didn’t hear them if you can. If they repeat it - just pretend again you didn’t. They’ll stop.

• Confident body language- Anything they see that signals respect, high status and authoritative - people will respect. And of them is confident body language. Walk straight. Sit up straight. Eyes looking at people and body relaxed.

• Remember small details about people. These little things that aren’t that important but when you remember -people pay attention when you do. And are more likely to like you as a result.

• Don’t fill every silence. Let your words breathe. When you finish making a point, stop talking. The urge to keep explaining shows insecurity. Plus the more you talk the more people will not care.

That’s it.

See you next time

-Noat

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