1.Never Prioritize Women (Control Your Balls)

Chase women and they will run away. Chase your goals and women chase you. I’ve had it happen to me multiple times. The girl I’m interested in doesn’t want me. But when I stopped and focused on myself - she suddenly wanted to talk.

Women will get in your way. They are like a drug that can never be cured. Their attention, gaze and emotions are dangerous. If you don’t know how to control yourself- you will always be controlled by a woman.

It’s crazy how not wanting any woman makes them want you.

But this is the modern world. Most women are low quality. And that is precisely why you must focus on yourself, not women.

Mingling and knocking up a girl accidentally can f*ck your life under a day. Control your urges. Control your dick. Most women are not that worth it. Stop putting them as the center of your world. You will ruin your life fast.

This is not the 19’s era where most girls are pure. Most women nowadays come with baggage from past exes and sexual partners as young as 18. Back then - the only women you can talk to—were the gals from your town.

But today men - compete for women globally. Dating apps destroyed organic social relations - where your Mother or Father could introduce you to a woman back in the days normally.

But now you got chats, text and video calls. Not only are you wasting your time if you prioritize a woman over your goals - you are also guaranteed to lose her - because women will always seek out the ones focused on a mission not the one focused on her.

Doing casual flings and hook ups destroy your soul as a man. Avoid them as much as possible. If you are interested in sex - then have sex with liberals. If you fuck a virgin and leave - you are making society worse.

Never touch a pure girl unless you are going to marry her. Don’t be one of the people making society worse because it’s already worse as it is.

2. Learn to regulate your emotions

Most men suck at handling their emotions.

One insult and they wreak havoc. One moment of bad emotion and their entire day is ruined.

Weakness is disgusting.

A man must rule over his emotions. You are not a woman that can get away with yelling and shouting.

Men earn respect by staying calm. Women earn compassion by crying. As a man you can’t.

Learning to manage your emotions is one of the best skills you can have in life. It will grant you more opportunities and benefits in life you thought you could never have.

You become more objective and see things clearly. The clearer your mind—the better decisions you make.

Men gain respect and compassion by solving their own shit. If you cry and break down - people will think you are useless.

Your emotions and pain may be valid - but to people - they will just look at you with fake compassion and ignore you.

Watch this video of a man telling an audience how he got abused by his wife and the audience laughs. (People have no compassion for weak men) and props to the host for defending the man.

https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/eon1n4/host_calls_out_audience_for_laughing_at_male/?captcha=1

Understand this can happen to you as well.

3. Become valuable and the world will give you opportunities

This is a topic many will avoid writing about. But I won’t. If you are a useless man you will get criticized and hated by even those closest to you.

Men are only looked at their utility. How useful you are and how valuable you are to society, the higher your respect.

That’s why women always want the guy who is the tallest, most handsome and makes the most money. If you think you are a unique snowflake - you are not.

This will trigger most of you but I want you to understand - I will be unfiltered. If you don’t like it - you can unsubscribe below.

If you want to loved - be useful. If you want to be respected - become irreplaceable.

4. Being shy is pointless

We don’t have the choice to be gullible and wait for others to tell us what to do.

As a man - it’s your priority to fix your confidence. The bolder you are the better. You are not supposed to be cowering in the corner making excuses not to talk to people.

If you are socially awkward and shy - you must fix your social skills ASAP. Life will be very hard for you if you suck at communicating and can’t speak up.

The most well liked people have the best social skills. They are the ones given the most opportunities and the ones always getting the recognition.

You don’t have to be grandiose - but you have to be confident enough that you can confront problems, talk face to face to people seriously and able to assert your opinion with respect.

If you want I can write a letter about building confidence. Just let me know (reply below)

5. Start today

This is self-explanatory.

Whatever it is your going to do - you should just do it. If I waited for a year to start my newsletter I wouldn’t have been able to earn 1k subscribers in Beehiv and 3.9k subscribers in Substack.

Whatever it is you’re going to start - the earlier the better.

Time will pass. Might as well just do it now.

6. Most people are stupid. Don’t take them personally

Most adults are children stuck inside an adult’s body. They haven’t learned how to regulate their emotions, they aren’t taught to handle finances and when they grow older - it becomes chaotic.

And that chaos passes on the next generation. Many people only know to follow and never create.

That’s why most adults are so lost when they enter life as an adult.

• Now you got to pay rent

• Now you got a job to attend to.

• Now you got to feed your own mouth and contribute to your family financially

Adulthood is not kind. It’s cruel and the only way for your to thrive is to confront and deal with it immediately.

Don’t make excuses and say you can deal with it tomorrow. If you do you avoid responsibility and teach your future self to be weak.

7. If your life sucks, take responsibility

Growing up you can always see the kids who will do well in life. The ones who never had anything and had to learn how to get it.

I was one of them. I grew up poor - not even having money to buy myself toys.

Every time I’d ask My Mother if she could buy me toys, she would say with a painful smile “maybe next time”.

That next time turned into months and years. Deep down I felt sad. Although young as I was 8-10 years old, I understood my family’s situation.

I learned that if I want a toy for myself I have to earn it. I saved up money and got enough to a half a month’s salary in my country. By the time I could buy a toy - I lost interest. It didn’t matter anymore.

What mattered the most was I had money. I learned how responsibility works and you can’t just ask for something and get it for free. And that’s why most adults fail at life.

Many children grow up privileged and never taught how responsibility works.

Most children have terrible parents. And terrible parents create terrible adults.

And terrible adults are never taught how responsibility works because terrible parents are always the one solving their terrible problems.

I’ve seen it clearly.

Young ones never taught to do house chores - never learn to get a job for themselves.

They never learn how to properly manage their finances or properly think for their future.

Pain is a great equalizer. It’s painful as a child to grow up lacking - however the magnitude of lessons one can derive from it with proper guidance and teaching from parents - can result to very high disciplined individuals.

Growing up privileged is a curse if you have terrible parents.

Life as a man is hard. Do your very best to improve all aspect of yourself.

That’s all for today’s letter. I’ll be writing more unfiltered truths as we go along 2026.

See you next time

-Noat

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