My friend died last week.

It was a mix of grief and regret.

What I want to tell you today is simple. If you think you're going to give up—it's not because you're tired but because you think you can't.

The body giving up before the mind is rare. Many people die not because of diseases but because of their actions. The reason is simple.

Lack of mental resilience. The ability to see and toughen out during the hardest of times. This is skill is like hell—especially if you live in a place that's full of problems.

I get plenty of replies that they've given up in life and they don't know what to do. I think of that as an excuse.

You haven't given up. Because if you did you would be dead by now. You just don't know what to do in the moment. And if you continue floating around doing nothing—you'll likely stay the same.

I want you to impart the knowledge you are not alone. You just feel like you're alone.

The human brain functions mainly via emotion. In rare cases logic might overpower emotions however it is rare. likely when that happens someone is usually socially awkward not shy.

Today's letter is not motivating. But will give you a clear outlook on what's happening in most people's lives.

It's kind of sad honestly. But if you are feeling down this might help you understand why.

4 Simple Reasons Why People Give up In Life.

1) Despair: "I give up"

Learned helplessness is not the final stage.

The most tragic level of giving up is despair. Here—you become apathetic towards the world and to other people.

You lack interest anymore. You don't care if you get hurt anymore. You give up—mentally, spiritually and physically.

This is different than depression.

Despair is like living in the abyss. No lights, no color, no emotions but simply you existing and nothing else.

Most people in this stage are dead.

Those who are still alive are those who've given up and have either become crazy or simply non-responsive. Still alive but unable to communicate properly.

Well it's actually a lot more than that.

It could be someone you loved died, you lost your job, you lost your spouse, children or anything you love.

The most hurtful part of someone dying is not the thought of them dying—but the thought of you never seeing them again smiling, laughing, crying or doing idiotic funny stuff.

Then the memories replay from time to time. It makes you remember the emotions you felt when you were with that person.

Your mind numbs—and your emotions burst through your tears. It never stops hurting—it'll only hurt less as you get used to it.

When you mind decides it no longer can handle it. You know what happens. Usually from exhaustion of mental strength. Leading to a decaying body and spirit.

But that's never the case. Because emotions lie all the time.

If you don't know. David almost died a couple of times doing marathons and military training.

His mind is built like steel. He’s similar to Jocko Willinks

2) Regret : What most people ignore

A regret is an intense feeling of sadness or illogical outlook on a decision you made.

Well it's true because it damaged you to the point you want to die.

However regrets are learning lessons. Most people stop because they fear what might come next. When the answer is to move forward—regret will hold you back.

There are many forms of regret.

• What you said

• What you did

• What you couldn't say

• What you didn't do

• What you were supposed to do but did not

Notice that regret is mostly "I didn't".

Regret comes from inaction. Whether it may be you dying from old age not achieving your dreams or you failing to do something you wanted to do.

Should you blame GOD? Nope never.

The way the universe works is intricate. Everything has been pre-determined but that doesn't mean you have a choice.

The way of cause and effect is balance. What's good for someone might be bad for someone.

What's luck to someone might be misfortune to some.

It's a dance in the chaos. Both the good and evil never interacting yet always present.

There's peace—there's problems. Like weather—they come and go when it's time.

3) "I wish I did….", "If only I had…" : Inward Perspective

This one is similar to regret however this is what I call the "Inward perspective"

To understand things you must look outside and see things as it is. Not through your own tiny world inside your mind.

Instead of weighing down the pro's and cons—you blaming yourself for everything that happened is flawed.

Let's be real sure you might be at fault—but is it 100% your fault? or rather are you even sure you were the one who caused the fault to happen?

If you are truly at fault and you take responsibility for it - you have my respect.

It's easy to blame yourself if you have a common sense. Though most people lack this simple skill.

What I'd like to emphasize is simple "You're not the only person in this world".

What triggered X event to happen might be cause Y person did this. What happened with Y person might have triggered because Z person acted like this and said this thing that made X event happen to occur.

There's also the way of becoming NPC of giving up in life. This one is subconscious. You aren't fully aware of it but you can feel the lack of meaning deep inside you.

Giving up in life is common in 2 ways. You give up in your dreams or you decide not to live anymore.

Because giving up in your dreams is the same as killing your potential and dream life. Who could've been will stay as a fantasy in your mind never being able to actually become that person.

This letter is sad however the purpose is to educate not to make your mental health worse—if you keep running away from this fact you might dig yourself a hole too deep no one can hear or see you anymore.

4) Loneliness

This is something most people know but don't understand.

The kind of real loneliness is different. It's when you don't trust anyone, don't care about what anyone says and even if you do good you know people will only care about how useful you are not how much depth you have as a person.

Loneliness is not about you feeling sad that no one care's about you—it's you not knowing who to trust and rely on when bad times happen.

You don't know if you should reach out or not, you don't know who to talk when times are tough.

And when that happens you're mind gets plagued by "No one care's about me".

Which is honestly sad and not true. People will not know if you don't tell them.

So before you do anything stupid—at least reach out. Because people cannot read other people's minds and tell if something is wrong.

Advice For Those Who Feel Hopeless

Bro just chill man. I know you got a lot of dreams in life that you want to achieve but you got to rest too. Even machines need time to cool down.

You don't need to handle everything at once. That's just a formula to burn out.

Having low physical energy and mental resilience is a plague in the modern world because of how soulless most jobs are.

I take rest too. I have sprints time for productivity and rest days.

If you want to alleviate your suffering here's what you can do:

• Develop irrational optimism. You need to build a mental strength like a main character that doesn't give up. This is built upon belief and effort. Without belief you won't go far. Without effort you won't build a sturdy foundation to handle setbacks. Don't do this too much to the point you end up hurting yourself with no return that you cause self-destruction to happen.

• Probably the weirdest advice you'll hear but if you have an object you love or care for— remember to care of it like a living thing. You will most likely look crazy in the eyes of other people but this is a step most people forget. Especially if it's given by someone you care for. It's called having a sentimental value.

• Talk to people you trust often. Don't mind the thought of you wasting their time or yours. Just keep in contact. You never know it might saved them and you.

• Develop depth. This is a skill that allows you to see what is beneath the surface. Think of it as knowing how a pen is made and what is the purpose of a pen being made. It's a philosophical aspect of knowledge that makes sense when you connect ideas.

• Connect to GOD. The metaphysical connection you have with GOD will put you at ease when you have no one else besides you. Too many people reject GOD that's why their life is miserable. You'll need guidance from someone higher than you and that is never a person.

• Call your Mother/Father/Siblings. When was the time you reached out to your family? How many times have you seen each other this year? How long have you interacted with each other? Reaching out to your loved ones is not a problem. Be sure to extend a hand or extend your heart to people if you need it.

Many people are good at hiding misery. If you detect someone is going through something like this—reach out to them. Or if you are going through something similar don’t be afraid to reach out.

It’s just your mind making up assumptions.

I hope this letter helps you out. Never be afraid to reach out when you're about to do something stupid.

It'll save you.

See you next time,

-Noat