Those who reject suffering and want to live a life of pleasure are fools.

You may be happy today but realize that in the future you will suffer. Your body will grow old—your muscles will get weaker—your joints will pop a lot.

If you train now you—will reap the rewards of a healthier and stronger body when you're older. If you don't you'll—end up becoming one of those old people who need help going to the bathroom.

I'm not trying to scare you. I'm saying there is a possibility of that truth happening.

Life is full of consequences.

So many people try to run away from problems and difficulties—in exchange they let their mind and body rot and create even bigger problems.

Running away from what should be done that is hard—has never resulted in good things.

The greatest benefit of confronting suffering is it promotes well being.

The more you solve problems that are hard—you grow your self-esteem. Your confidence rises—your endurance gets stronger—your mentality gets resilient.

ning away from problems will haunt you. Confront what needs to be done and you will be rewarded with honor and pride.

When I was fat I dreaded working out. I saw the muscular guys as aliens who had great genetics. I convinced myself it was impossible for me to lose weight. Because in the past I've tried.

The first time I worked out was when I was in 7th grade. I worked out inconsistently and with wrong form. I gave up because I couldn't do one pushup. I did very hard variations in the first try and would quit because I couldn't do it right.

Then when I was in 8th grade I tried again. This time I just stuck to a simple routine of push up, crunches and jumping jacks. That lasted for about 3 weeks before I quit.

Then when covid hit. I gained more weight. I became fatter. I didn't look at the mirror for months. Then when I had to take a picture I was perplexed by how fatter I've become.

My eyes were shallow—chubby cheeks The fat below my triceps were flabbing and my stomach bulging.

I started to get angry at myself for allowing this experience to happen. Mind you I was mad because deep down I knew I could've just worked out consistently if I wanted to. Problem was I didn't.

The time I started to fix my life was 4-5 years ago.

That was the beginning of my transformation. And what I want to tell you is that I suffered a lot during those times.

Suffering in itself is not good. The kind of suffering you want is the one that promotes growth.

Like a muscle, your mind, body and soul needs to be put under stress. Then you let it recover.

You let your mind heal by journaling what you did wrong. What you can learn to do better.

Then you heal your body by eating properly. After a workout session you do cool down exercises and wind down.

You heal your soul by listening to it. Asking for forgiveness and realizing you are imperfect and you can never attain perfection.

Practicing faith and spirituality is how you heal the inner trauma and wounds inside.

Difficulties promote psychological well-being

When you've been through a lot in life you stop caring about things that don't matter.

People who latch onto the latest rage bait and toxic content are those who've never undergone immense pain and suffering.

The people who support toxic cultures are the ones who've never had a good relationship with their families.

Those who support violence are the ones who've never experienced it . The people who promote junk food are the ones who eat it the most.

Healthy and peaceful peaceful people do not support what makes life worse.

When you understand the difficulties of life, not just feeling sad or bad when you see someone is struggling—you will see the world differently.

You will start to be a proper adult. You will think in terms of consequences and results.

The man you see who's got sharp eyes and looks at you as if he's staring at your soul is a man who's been through a lot.

Most things doesn't faze him.

You can scream at his face, verbally abuse him and yet—he will remain standing strong and in control. Look up Jocko Willink. When you see this guy personally you can instantly see what kind of life he had lived and the experiences he has been through.

In contrast, many adults are immature. They've lived too comfortably in their life that they do not realize what they are doing is holding them back and their family.

I've seen many people like this. Adults who can't control their anger.

Those who pass their anger to someone else.

Say your boss got angry at them now they're blaming their wife/husband for something stupid not related to what their boss got angry about them and being irritable about it for very stupid reasons.

Now that wife/husband who did nothing wrong will pass that anger to someone else (if they both don't know how to regulate their emotions).

Their anger might be valid but it's not valid to hurt those around you.

Emotionally mature people learn how to cope with their stressors at life positively. Of course everyone has limits. But mostly the immature ones do not know how to solve their own emotions.

This is how generational trauma passes too btw.

Prepares you for the real world

Immature and spoiled brats who grow up as adults have a false sense of perception about the world.

They think their Mom and Dad will always be there for their needs. They think if they can't solve their own problem they should just ask for help and let someone else fix it.

Those who don't understand the pain of life are usually the ones who are the most ignorant on how to be an adult. They are the ones who cause problems and have others fix it.

They are usually the most needy and most chaotic people to deal with. Because they never really understood how hard life is—they think they can take it easily and never take the consequences of their actions seriously.

If you find yourself in the presence of someone like this, understand that there is little to nothing you can do to change his/her life.

The more you help the more responsibilities will fall into you and the more you will be blamed when things go wrong.

Everyone wakes about the reality of life. Sometimes too early and sometimes too late.

Do not fear suffering

Many people like you and I have dreaded the feeling of suffering.

We think in our minds it's hard, it's not worth it, the gain is not enough for the cost.

But that's all cope.

If you truly want to grow you must understand you will have to put yourself under stress.

The stress of not meeting your expectations. The overwhelm of not keeping up your promises to yourself is incredibly painful.

These are your good stressors. This is your higher self calling you to do better because it know you can be more.

When I talk like this it cringes people. But those who have deeply long to improve will understand. The voice that criticizes you when you don't do the work, when you fail to keep your promise is your inner voice asking you to not give up and try again.

The voices we have inside our minds are brutal critics. They don't have any filters. They say what is true even if it breaks you.

These are your demons and angels speaking.

These are the voices tied to your soul trying to reach out to you.

They both work in duality. If you only hear good things from your mind you will end up becoming comfortable and weak. You will lose your progress. You will sleep with women who are not worth it and f*ck up your life.

The demons inside you are built to keep you in check. It pushes you to do more and be better. It criticizes you so you may have the motivation to prove it wrong.

The problem is when one side gets too strong than the other. Like a pillar both—sides need equal distribution of strength. If the left side is shouldering more weight then it will crumble and the right side will follow because they are connected.

You must strike a balance. Not always angry, not always happy but peaceful and calm to see and listen to what your mind is trying to tell you.

Suffer in the right way

Now don't get me wrong when I say you should suffer.

I'm not saying you should just suffer mindlessly.

Do it the right way—the right kind of suffering.

If you're fat go to the gym. Suffer the consequences of not eating properly for years after gaining weight. Pay the monthly commitment of going to the gym even if you're broke.

Commit to working out 3-4x times a week even if you feel shy being around people.

Suffer how bad it feels to run when you're fat. When your knees are hurting and your stomach is bulging outside.

Suffer with your mind bullying you saying it's not worth it and some of your friends judging you for wanting to lose weight. Suffer the commitment of losing weight even if it takes months or years.

With the right way of suffering you grow—you learn skills and experience. Those who conquer the fear of failure cannot be held and tied down.

And btw if you're fat or skinny fat and go to the gym the only people who will judge you there—are people who don't workout and live miserable lives.

Most gym bro's are very friendly and helpful. Don't believe what you see on TV where the fat girl or guy gets bullied by the people who go to the gym. It's a tactic to keep you fat and exploitable.

My current suffering is learning to improve my writing. If you've noticed I've been able to properly structure my thoughts. I've been putting conscious effort to improve the way I deliver my ideas.

There are letters where my topics are all over the place. That's mostly because I want to say a lot of things I deem helpful. I'm learning.

Improve with me. Let's suffer the right way and improve. You can tell me below what you're currently improving in your life. And I can give an advice or two.

And if you really want to do the right kind of suffering investing in yourself while having 0 to little money as a commitment is a good start. It's how I spent my last $200 to buy a writing course to start The Improvement Letter.

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Action Plan

• Thank your Mother and Father for all the sacrifices they've done to provide you with food, shelter and money. Don't be a man child and say you have nothing to be grateful for. Just do it—think of anything you can thank them for. You will make their day and you will feel happier.

• Write down 10 latest events that made you suffer. Then write each one with "What you learned" and "What you can do to make sure it won't happen again". This will take time to complete. Go and look into your memories deep. Try to understand what happened and why.

That's it.

See you next time

-Noat

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